Let's Not Jump Ahead

People are very interesting creatures, don't you think? I mean, I am a very outspoken, blunt person, and all who know me well know that I never say things to intentionally hurt someone, and as I've gotten older, the tact has gotten better. It has, although I know it's hard to believe!

However, as my tact has gotten better, others',apparently, have not.

Yes, I am 34 and engaged. It's fabulous.

• I will have freak out days.
  
• I will have crying days (C.E. has already seen that a ton so yes, he knows what he is getting himself in to)
• I will have joyous, laughing, giggling days
• I will have adjustment days as I make my small condo work for two, not so small, people instead of just me and all my 'stuff' (why on earth do I have candles with no wick and have saved every possible ribbon I've ever received as I 'may use it someday')
• Yes, C.E. is shocked by the number of shoes and is learning that one does not mock a girl's shoes, EVER (love you sweetie).
  

Who doesn't go through the above when it's discussed and the ring is actually put on the finger to make it reality. HOWEVER, I'm not going into this without knowing 100% it is the right thing to do. Again, I'm 34 people, not 21. I could have been married before, believe me there were options, just not the right options and if I had followed through with some of them I'd be divorced and probably in jail for manslaughter as some of them drove me crazy!

Anyway.....

I am like any other 'soon to be bride' and want the fairy tale wedding. No, I am not irrational, or unreasonable, nor am I unrealistic about what can actually be spent (I am a teacher after all, not an orthopedic surgeon) but I do want what every other bride wants when they are planning their 'big day'.

Back to the people who I'm surprised don't have tact.

Here is a list of conversations that I find extremely interesting (the responses especially, but some of the questions as well) that I have had recently with people. I wouldn't say this stuff to someone, and I usually say whatever pops out of my mouth!

Conversation 1:
Person: Are you going to wear a wedding dress?
Me: Yes, not a big poofy one; I'm not a size zero after all
Person: You really want to wear a wedding dress? At your age?

Nice, nice.

Conversation 2:
Person: You aren't going to register are you? At your age?
Me: Of course I am. Registering is how you set up your house and my house is currently full of not a lot of kitchen things.
Person: Why would you register? Don't you have everything?

In my head I thought: "I'm a teacher, don't have much, and what I do have cost me less than $10, promise. Okay, my VitaMix did not, but I'm not registering for a blender, so there!"

Conversation 3:
Person: Where are you going to live?
Me: In my condo (C.E. lives in St. George and is being the greatest and moving up here so I can stay in my position at work)
Person: You aren't going to move out of your condo into a big house? At your age?

Love the 'at your age' I keep getting. People used to say I looked so young, but you up and get a boy and all of a sudden you're supposed to have all these things and actually look your age.

This is the doozey of them all!!!

Conversation 4:
Person: So how soon are you going to have kids?
Me: When I'm 40, or when I decide to push one out.
Person: Aren't you going to start soon? You don't have a lot of time you know, and you don't even know if you can have kids.

Thanks for pointing out my age, again, and for being all up in my business about whether or not I'm going to have kids right off. I'm not even married, won't be for five months, and I'm already supposed to know about kids? I may not even have any just because I can decide NOT to. :)

So, for all those fabulous blog readers of mine (friends, family, anonymous), here it is: I want to enjoy being married without the potential throwing up, feeling horrid stage that pregnancy may bring (I want to keep C.E., not scare him off :) Can you imagine me pregnant? DANGER!).

If my eggs haven't shriveled up and died, then we will see if I can get knocked up. But until then, can I plan the wedding first before I have to plan the nursery?

And I promise, I will not be prego when I'm 40. Not that there is anything wrong with it, but I don't think my back or knees or personality will have the patience for it then.

I am old after all and apparently getting older by the second.